Think You're Hesitant To Talk Or Meet Ladies?
There is a simple thing that guys can do to raise their confront on approaching women and meeting women.
If you feel uncomfortable in any circumstance, it implies that you are approaching this scenario on too high a gradient. Instead of runing away from the situation, lower the gradient.
What exactly are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder. If you try to go to the top level of the ladder on your initial step, it will be extremely hard to accomplish, and you may fail. If you continue trying it repeatedly you will start building up a complex about failing, and soon not make an effort anymore.
If you try to skip up five or six steps in your first attempt, it will also be terrifying -- not necessarily out of the question but frightening. And the probability is that if you have no experience leaping that high you will not be successful .
The best tactic is to take the first step and then advance one-step each time. It is the most suitable approach to climb a step ladder.
When I was a young man I would notice a lady I was drawn to and believed I had to express to her just how much I liked her right away. Well that was jumping up several steps on the ladder. I knew nothing about her.
The first step is a simple "Hi" and a smile. Then keep walking. Get comfortable simply saying "Hi" to young ladies. Then as step two when they say "Hi" back or ask you a question, reply to the question, or make a comment about something which she has her interest on to continue the conversation. For instance, if you are in a bookstore and she is taking a look at a book on cooking, ask her what she thinks of that book. Is it worthwhile?
Interactions develop naturally. Do not push it. Familiarize yourself with her before you decide that you like her.
Obviously, there is a whole lot more to it, however these are excellent basics to start with. If you are using gradients eventually you will learn how to meet women.
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